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About Mac &
Barbara | Core Concepts |
What to Expect
Parenting With Dignity® is a resource
where parents learn new effective parenting skills and provides
a source of information for parents, giving them the tools
necessary to create an encouraging, and loving home for their children.
We are a non-profit, 501(c)(3) educational organization;
governed by a board of directors comprised of parents, educators and
business professionals. It was started by a
grant from Drew Bledsoe, quarterback for the NFL's
The "Parenting With Dignity" curriculum
was developed by Mac and Barbara
Bledsoe based on their 20+ years of experience as educators,
counselors, coaches, and parents. We have
partnered with other youth advocacy groups to bring its message to a
broad audience of parents and educators. Key partnerships include: YMCA,
Pop Warner Football, Children's Miracle Network, and the Parent-Teacher
Associations in many states.
Visit our FAQ page
to learn more about Parenting With Dignity™.
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Mac and Barbara Bledsoe have been talking with parents
for more than 20 years about how to help instill positive behavior and
good decision-making skills in their children.
Whether a PTA convention, an athletic banquet, a high school graduation, a
corporate workshop, a national conference, a teacher workshop, or a
community meeting - Mac and Barbara brings their common sense, humorous,
highly motivational messages to audiences.
You will laugh; you will cry. Mac and Barbara will touch your head and
your heart as they guide you through important messages about working and
growing up with children.
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Five Rules For Parents
The video parenting
course is based upon one central idea:
APPROVE OR NOT, YOUR CHILDREN
WILL MAKE ALL OF THE BIG DECISIONS IN THEIR
LIVES; SO, OUR ONLY HOPE IS TO TEACH THEM
TO MAKE GOOD DECISIONS."
- End any criticism with a positive statement of expected behavior.
The expected behavior must be stated in very specific, behavioral terms
kids can understand. Remember, just because you said something, does not
mean children heard it, understood it, and can translate what you said
into productive action. Also, before you can communicate to children
precisely what it is you want them to do…. you must decide exactly what
you do want. Once you have in mind a very specific idea of exactly what
it is you want children to do, many times your strategy to bring about
that behavior will become very obvious. Always keep in mind that it
helps if you will include a "sales pitch" explaining why your desired
behavior will bring about positive and rewarding outcomes for the kid.
- Criticize the performance and not the person. Criticism is
often necessary in working with the behavior of children, but it must
remain just that… a criticism of just the behavior. As a matter of fact,
most of the time it is possible to give the person a compliment while
the behavior is being corrected. This sounds easy, but it takes great
care and planning to do it.
- Do not assume they have heard it simply because you have said it…REPEAT
IT! Repetition is fundamental to all learning. It is rare that we ever
learn anything on a first exposure, and children are no different. KIDS
ARE PEOPLE TOO. So, remember when you set out to teach them something
you, most likely, will have to repeat it a couple of times. KEEP THE
ANGER OUT! Also, remember that if you have repeated something a number
of times and the kids are still not doing it, then you need to find
another way to say it. (Remember when you repeat it, that there are many
ways to "say" something.)
- It does not matter what you say; it is what they say to
themselves that counts. Self - motivation is the only kind of
motivation. No matter how much you would like to motivate and control
children, the controlling force in their lives will be what they tell
themselves. If I were speaking to you, it would not matter what I said
if you were repeating over and over in your head "Boy, he doesn't know
what the heck he is talking about." The techniques we use with children
must always be aimed at guiding them to phrase positive statements about
themselves. One of the most effective ways to do this is to teach them
the fundamentals of values clarification and goal setting.
- Send a constant and continual message of LOVE. We do not know
how it is that humans learn language. But we do know that the particular
language all humans speak is simply the language they are exposed to...
and that is the key, because love is a language! If we wish to have
children speak the language of love, then we must make sure we expose
them to it on a continuous basis. There are two important corollaries to
sending a message of love to our kids:
- Love is not just something you say; it is also something you do.
(You can fake like you care, but you can't fake being there. To send a
message of love to your children you must show up. Love is not a
- The time they most need to hear it, is the time you feel least
able to say it. When you are at the point of putting your children up
for adoption, that is probably the time when their heart is most open
to receive your message.
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- How to obtain appropriate behavior from
- Kids with a strong sense of pride in their appropriate behavior
- Happy, self-directed youth
- Children with a very strong sense of their value structure
- Children with solid decision making skills based upon well
- Children with a strong sense of accountability for their actions
- Children confirmed in their self worth due to the unconditional
love of their parents
- Safer schools filled with happier children
- Schools with decreased needs for disciplinary action because the
students come to school with self-discipline instilled at home
- Parents with a sense of calm in their relationships with their
- Happy homes with open lines of communication
- Decreases in drug use, violence, and crime among teens
- Employers with decreased absenteeism due to family strife
- Increased employee productivity due to workers being fulfilled at
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Model of Human Performance - A very logical explanation of the
role of self-esteem in controlling human behavior. Learn how "The ideas in
your head rule your world."
5 Rules for Parents - Learn five
simple, practical - but, very powerful - techniques to use daily to get
kids to do what you want while feeling good about themselves.
Messages of Love - The surest way to
build self-esteem in kids is to let them know they're loved. Learn
practical, innovative ways to comfortably tell kids they are loved.
Goal Setting - Do you want kids to
realize their dreams? This is the seminar for you. Learn "The Three P's of
Making Value Choices - Help your kids
realize that "acquiring things, money or status is not the only way to
judge success." Help your children make critical decisions in their value
Empowering Kids - This is the ideal
symposium for both adults and children. Kids learn how to sort the world
into areas they can control and those they cannot. Adults learn how to
help kids make good decisions.
|Roadblocks to Success - Discover about the behaviors that stand
in the way of our achieving our goals and maximizing our potential and how
to adjust those behaviors.
Why Punishment Doesn't Work - Six
reasons why punishment does not bring about meaningful change in kids.
Lead children to make good choices on their own.
The Bledsoe Lottery - Aimed at young
people, this seminar helps kids realize that in order to get something
from life, it is necessary to give something first.
Where to Start - This discussion
guides kids to realize, "The best way to get the job I want is to do the
very best with the one I already have".
Choices - "How do I pick what I want
to be?" This discussion will address very practical, step-by-step ways to
help kids answer this important question.
Mac can tailor a workshop or seminar to fit any audience, and often
makes multiple presentations including day sessions for students,
afternoons for teachers, and evenings for parents.
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The fee structure for Mac speaking is as follows:
Up to 2 hours, $2,000
Half Day (3-4 hours) is
Full Day which includes speaking with students during the school day,
teachers and administration in the afternoon and the community at night
Note: Travel expenses
are in addition to these appearance fees, but
we always try to split costs if we can
book additional events in the area during the same week.
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