DVD Facilitator's Guide
Discipline - Deciding What You Want
Parents will gain understanding of their
tremendous role as a “wizard” in the lives of their children.
Parents are asked to decide if they choose to be “positive wizards”
or “negative wizards”.
Parents will gain an understanding of
the concept presented in rule #4: "There is only one kind of
Discipline… and that is self-discipline!"
Parents will learn that obedience can be
a very dangerous reason for children to limit their own behavior.
Parents will learn other reasons to ask
their children to adjust their own behavior. These reasons are far
more useful to kids, than obedience, for making good decisions about
Parents will learn to identify their own
goals in working with kids so that the goal can direct their
Parents will begin to develop their own
strategies for working with their own children and will begin to
have confidence in their own abilities as effective parents.
Parents will understand that "quality
time" is a hoax! There is time… period. A parent must give a child
lots of time in order to be effective as a mentor.
The ideas in our kids' heads will rule
their world so as we work with them, we must aim at directing, and
shaping the critical ideas that children will use to make the big
decisions in their lives.
Parenting done in the manner advocated
here will require lots of time. If you are willing to spend time,
you will experience amazing success! "You can fake like you care,
but you can't fake being there!"
We cannot control our kids. All we can
do is teach them how to control themselves.
When we, as parents, are clear in our
own minds of exactly what we want our children to do and also are
totally clear about why we want them to do it, then we will
drastically increase the possibilities of success.
- We parents can choose to be either a “Positive Wizard” or a
“Negative Wizard” to our children! This should be a conscious
decision that every parent should give great thought to making.
In one of their children, parents are to
pick a behavior they would like to change.
The parents will attempt to restructure
their approach to allow their child the clear understanding of
exactly what is expected of them and also why that behavior is being
asked of them.
The parents then must sell the desired
action on its own merits. The child will be sold upon the personal
advantage and profitability for the change in action.
Discipline: Deciding what you want
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